How do I handle self-doubt during periods of stagnation or setbacks?
Periods of stagnation or setbacks can stir up the loud voice of self-doubt. It’s that inner critic questioning your worth, demanding evidence of progress, and pressuring you to prove yourself. While self-doubt often feels antagonistic, what if we approached it differently? What if, instead of battling it, we met it with compassion?
Here’s how to transform your relationship with self-doubt and turn it into a tool for growth.
Why Self-Doubt Shows Up
Self-doubt arises when we’re in a period of uncertainty—when results aren’t visible, and progress feels stuck. It’s like an alarm system, trying to protect you by saying:
“Are you sure you’re doing enough?”
“What if this doesn’t work out?”
“You should stop before it gets worse.”
Its purpose isn’t to harm you but to keep you safe. However, self-doubt’s perspective is limited. It can only see what’s directly in front of you—the stagnation, the lack of proof, the uncertainty.
Reframing Self-Doubt
The key to handling self-doubt is to recognize its limitations while responding with compassion. Here’s a mindset shift to consider:
Self-doubt doesn’t have the full picture. It can’t see the growth that’s happening beneath the surface or the path that’s forming ahead of you.
Instead of rejecting doubt, acknowledge it: “I hear you, but I’ve got this.”
A Practical Framework to Transform Self-Doubt
When self-doubt arises, follow this simple three-step process:
Pause and Name It
Say: “This is self-doubt. It’s trying to protect me.”
Naming it creates separation between you and the feeling, reminding you that self-doubt is temporary.
Respond with Compassion
Say: “Thank you for your concern, but I’m moving forward.”
Treat it like an overprotective friend. Acknowledge its intention without letting it control you.
Take One Small Action
Self-doubt thrives in inaction. Break the cycle by doing something achievable right now.
Examples:Write one sentence if you feel creatively blocked.
Send one email if you’re doubting your progress.
Brainstorm one idea to regain momentum.
Why Capturing the Moment Matters
During periods of doubt, it’s easy to forget how temporary these feelings are. Capturing the moment—writing down your thoughts, fears, and questions—gives you a record to reflect on later. When the tide turns, and progress resumes, you’ll see how far you’ve come. These records also remind you that doubt wasn’t a roadblock but a signpost on your journey.
Your Path Forward
Self-doubt doesn’t mean you’re failing. It means you care. It means you’re growing. Meet it with compassion, guide it with action, and trust that it’s part of your story of becoming. Stagnation and setbacks are not permanent—they’re teachers. And with each lesson, you’re moving closer to where you’re meant to be.